Perspective. We can shift our world through our perspective, the way we view the world is ultimately the way we create the world around us. Our thoughts shape our reality not only by creating something out of nothing. But by transforming what is, into what we are conditioned to see. What we are used to seeing ultimately becomes what we expect to see. The world we perceive is solely based on the way we choose to see it. I can look at a flower and choose to think that it is the most beautiful flower in the world, meanwhile you may look at the same flower and think that it is just an ordinary plant. Has the flower changed from the moment I saw it to the moment you saw it, just seconds after? No. So what changed? The observer, who is viewing the flower and the conditioning they carry towards flowers. You saw the flower the way you have grown used to seeing flowers. The way you have reacted in the past, what you have seen and experienced in the past, shapes what you see in the present. We are looking through a dirty lens filled with the dust from our past. Unless we become conscious and realize that the way we are perceiving most things is actually based on how we have perceived them before and less on how they actually are, we can begin to consciously see the world for what is instead of what we are. To open our eyes and see the world through a new lens.
The world changes as soon as you change the way you see it. As soon as you change your perception. What you carry inside begins to show up in your life.
Challenges are a great example of something that has gained a negative reputation but by changing the way you view them, you’ll find the beauty in challenge.
Every challenge in our life is an opportunity to grow and to change the way we view the world. We are taught to see challenges as roadblocks, or to see tough times in our life as something negative, something we must overcome and not accept. How do we view happy moments in our life? As something we just want to get over with or something we want to experience fully. To get every last drop out of the beautiful moment before moving onto the next.
So you see how different our perspective is towards “negative” moments. When all we do then is wonder “why me” and see the situation we are in as one that we do not deserve. But we only feel this way because we have not been taught how to use our challenges to help us. We get so caught up in the fact that we have to be feeling good all the time that we do not allow ourselves the grace of feeling “bad”. Even though it’s just another part of life.
Now, I’m not saying that when we feel down or challenged we have to start thinking about how great of a moment it is and how we never want to leave. It’s ok to want to overcome and strive for something better. But what I am saying is how maybe the way we view negative situations in our life actually causes them to become unbearable. Our perspective towards them doesn’t make the situation better. Instead of learning what we are meant to learn from the situation we search for constant distractions, whatever will keep us busy so that we don’t have to feel negative emotions because we have become conditioned into thinking that those feelings are “bad”, we become numb to our emotions because of how much we try to mute the negative. But every time you choose to not feel something you are also taking away your ability to feel all the beauty. You see, what you do to one side, you do to the other.
How much pain you are willing to allow yourself to feel determines how much happiness and joy and love you can experience fully.
One cannot exist without the other. There would be no such thing as happiness if sadness did not exist. Thanks to the discomfort we are able to determine what we will strive for in life. Our discomfort guides us in finding what we want in our life.
Uncomfortable emotions, which most people have titled negative emotions, are not bad. They bring with them some of life’s greatest lessons. They bring with them a higher capacity to feel love, joy, and growth. Overcoming an uncomfortable emotion, by allowing yourself to feel it fully will, in turn, lead you to feeling good. Trying to avoid and postpone it will untimely lead to it feeling way worse when you finally do have to feel it. Because you will have to feel it. There is no avoiding it. And it isn’t something to dread. It’s something you must invite with open arms. The very act of accepting a negative emotion turns it into a positive one. But you have to really fully accept it. When you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you have to feel, you will find that you will naturally feel at peace, which will then have you feeling joyful.
Acceptance is key to a frictionless life. When you do not allow things to be, you generate unnecessary tension and that in it of itself is a painful experience. But when you allow, and you allow fully, without judgment, there is a release, and suddenly you find that you are able to welcome greater and bigger things into your life. Because you have allowed yourself to expand. You have allowed yourself to feel what you need to feel and you can now move on to what comes next.
Life is like a game, there are many levels. But you can’t go to the next level until you master the one that you are on. Equally, you will only receive what you are ready for. When you feel like what you are asking for is taking long to manifest, you must search within yourself and see what it is you have to master before you are able to receive bigger. You must search to see what it is that you have to let go of in order to welcome something new into your life. What frequency do you have to tune into in order to attract a new level of life?
Each level carries within it a lesson that you must learn. When you feel stuck it is because something within you is resisting what naturally wants to happen within you. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. And truly ask yourself “what is trying to emerge from me right now?” “What do I need to be for myself in order to allow this expansion to occur within me?” “What is calling me, where am I needed?” “In what way can I serve myself and the world today? I am completely open to receiving.”
Search within the part of yourself that already knows the answers, the part of yourself that has been patiently waiting for you to look within and see that you are much more than you could ever imagine. That you are capable of much more than you know. That you are worthy of all the good that is coming your way and you have always been worthy even if you never believed it. And by trusting, feeling, and allowing, you are putting yourself in a position that will lead to your ultimate growth.
There is a power in turning within, in reflecting upon yourself and finding your power within.
We are conditioned to feel like we will find happiness outside of ourselves, that once we reach a certain goal, or have a certain thing we will finally feel good. And that is what leads to us feeling bad. We feed into the lie without question. Then we wonder why we feel pain. When we realize that everything comes from within us and that we are the sole creators of our inner and ultimately our outer experience, you’ll find that the power comes from you. You hold the power to choose how you will respond to emotions and how you choose to view them. What you choose to do with them and how they will shape your life.
We are not meant to be perfect, and all of this is very easy to read and think about, but hard to live. The thing is we are not supposed to read about this once and instantly change our lives. This is supposed to wake you up to the idea that there is another way to live out there, waiting for you. That you no longer have to believe that you rely on things outside of you to make you feel a certain way, but that you create your life. That you get to choose how you want to live your life.
You see, life is supposed to be lived with character. With grace. With patience. Love. Passion. In every moment.
You are a miracle. Yes. You. You reading this, you are a miracle. The chances of you being alive are 400 trillion to one. Life is a gift. And it is meant to be lived as one.
Too often we find ourselves stuck in a routine thinking that everyday will bring more of what yesterday brought. But no. Every morning when you wake up, it’s a new beginning. Another chance to turn your life around. To learn from what you did yesterday and make today better. Make it your mission to go to sleep better than how you woke up. Each day is an opportunity to add valuable lessons, and beautiful experiences to your life.
So next time you feel bad. Take a step back and ask yourself “what am I meant to learn from this?” And with one simple question, if you answer it deeply, you can turn your life around.
Until next time friend,
Camila Tracanelli
